Just another day without porn.

Last Updated on Tuesday, 20 September 2011 01:39 Written by Wes Friday, 16 September 2011 01:43

Porn addiction loves a good sneak attack. It loves to lure you into thinking you’re all set. You’re past it. There is incredible power in the strategies outlined in Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction, but it is important to practice those strategies on a regular basis. The strategies aren’t time consuming or oppressive, but they outline a way of thinking about your addiction, and about who you are. That’s why the book starts out with the important key: You are not your addiction. But when we start to forget the strategies, and let old thinking patterns return, that’s when we start to find ourselves slipping. A little slip here, a little slip there. It may start with a stray thought about a classmate or colleague. Failing to recognize our addictive voice in that process is dangerous. That stray thought then begins to grow, perhaps slowly at first, until we experience an all out binge. One reason I find our free support forum so valuable is that it helps us remember every day to identify those thoughts that are fueled by our addiction. I find it so incredible that as soon as I acknowledge my addictive voice (“the Beast”), my addictive thinking retreats. So, this little post is just to help remind us all to keep up the sober thinking, and to recognize each pornographic thought and lust as your addictive voice, and to review frequently the principles in Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction.

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Using filters to avoid porn.

Last Updated on Monday, 21 March 2011 01:29 Written by Wes Monday, 21 March 2011 01:25

I always liked Anthony Robbins message that the past does not equal the future. This was so important to remember as I started out in recovery. But it is even more important to remember after achieving sobriety. There is no more coasting. I’ve set up certain rules for myself and I still have to follow them.

For instance, I have filters on my computer, and my wife controls the password (I use Covenant Eyes and recommend it). I know that sobriety means I make correct choices when faced with different options, or what some might call temptations. And so, early in recovery, I refused to use porn filters. But eventually I realized that I was refusing to use the filter because I really didn’t want to give up the porn.

Eventually, I got humble enough to make the choice to use the filter. See, I was still making a correct choice, but I was making it before the temptation got too strong.

Now, I’m sober from porn. But I still use the filter. The addictive voice in my head keeps suggesting that I don’t need the filter anymore. Maybe, but maybe not. So I continue to choose to use the filter because I truly don’t want anything even accidentally popping up. Believe me, even with the filter I have enough opportunity to practice making good choices when faced with temptations.

So, the past does not equal the future. And just because I was sober yesterday, and sober the day before that, and many days before that, it doesn’t mean I’ll stay sober if I stop using common sense.

The nice thing about being sober from pornography is that I truly see the happiness it brings. I really don’t want to slide back.

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