What Doesn’t Work

Last Updated on Thursday, 17 November 2011 02:37 Written by Wes Thursday, 17 November 2011 02:37

Here’s another great post from the No-porn.com Support Forum on What Doesn’t and What Does help in our recovery from pornography addiction:

So…. what does NOT work?

1. Weaning yourself off porn does not work. You are still feeding the addict. The addict inside you is still winning when it persuades you to use porn “occasionally”. With respect to your counsellor, ask her how many porn addicts she has successfully taken through porn addiction and into lasting sobriety with that method.

2. Using soft porn or “I Can’t Believe It’s Not Porn” does not work. Bikini models and suggestive stuff is still feeding your addict and letting it win, demonstrating its strength over you. It will eventually convince you to drift back to where you were before and beyond.

3. Getting sexually active with a new partner does not work. You have a physical outlet but that’s it. At best you will keep your addiction out of your sexual relationship but it will still exist and continue to rule your life. More likely, it will cross over into your sexual relationship via your fantasies and corrupt it, becoming more entrenched, or it will simply sap your sexual strength, cripple your ability to relate to a sexual partner, and stop you from being honest with your partner.

4. Becoming disgusted with yourself, drowning in shame, then vowing never to do it again does not work. The shame is part of the addiction. Shame allows you to pretend this problem is not yours; it shuts you down and makes you sneaky and creepy; you don’t actually own your problem you just feel crap about it. Any vows you make in this state are worthless. You will use again.

There’s more… You can read the rest on the forum here by clicking here.

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